Mimi

Have you ever decided that you will start learning an instrument, do yoga or write a book, but after 2 weeks you still haven’t even started any of them? Or when you finally decide and kickoff a task, you find yourself overthinking or losing your attention after 20 minutes? Don’t worry you’re not alone, that’s why I decided to list some of my advice on how to kill procrastination and be more productive.
The problem with me is that I always overload myself with tasks, I start completing them but after some time I find myself thinking about that dog I’ve met the other day, or what I want to eat. As if that is not enough I always start to overthink about the things I’m doing. And after some time I lose all motivation and just return back to my comfort zone scrolling through twitter.
There is a simple solution to this problem and that is the 10 minute concept. What even is that you may ask..Well, let me explain.

Next time when you take your phone in your hand, put it down instead and think of what goals you have set for yourself. For example today you said you’re going to study those 20 pages that are waiting for you. Instead of learning all 20 pages, why don’t you start with a simple 10 minute rule. You study for 10 minutes (could be even more if you feel concentrated) and after that you take a rest. In the time of rest you can do things to improve your attention span:
– drink tea,
– chew a gum,
– listen to music,
– take a short walk outside,
– meditate (it will improve your focus!)

After the brake you can continue with your next 10 minutes. You might not even study the same subject but continue to study another, or do other things you have set for yourself. The point is to start learning and doing it everyday for at least 10 minutes. That way you won’t lose your attention but you will actually learn! (plus there is no more excuses that you don’t have time for it.)

This will help you not only at studying but other goals you have for yourself. For example you can learn a language or start a blog. 🙂
The most important part is consistency. It doesn’t mean that you can’t scroll true instagram or twitter never again, but just think of how much time do you actually spend on there.

Thanks for visiting my page, I hope you find this useful and it will help you. Let me know how it goes! Mimi

Here I have put together a little guide to what emotional intelligence is and how to improve at it, enjoy.

Emotional intelligence is an ability to monitor your own, and emotions of others and to distinguish between them. If someone is emotional intelligent, they understand feelings, what emotions mean, how they affect people and also how to manage their emotions in different situations.

Emotional intelligence is divided on four types:

• Social awareness
  • To be helpful, contribute to group effort, to be a good listener
  • Ability to express yourself well and being aware of how you are understood by others
  • Empathy – understanding other people’s emotions

• Self management
  • Able to work towards yout goals
  • Adaptive and knowing when to change course
  • Having a positive outlook, be an optimist
  • Emotional self control, knowing how to control your feelings and expressing them properly

• Relationship management
  •  Working with others effectively
  • Helping others build their skills, being a mentor
  • Having skills to negotiate and to settle disputes

After a brief explanation of the term, we can now move on to how we can build on it and become a better version of ourselves.

It is good to start with yourself and get to really know your emotions. Ask yourself often how you feel and why you are feeling this way. Stress is an important factor of self-management as it can lead to loosing ourselves. Try to manage the stress, I know it is sometimes easier said than done, but it is going to help you  stay in tune with your emotions and self control. The social media nowadays can be a major factor of stress and feeling bad about ourselves, so take time to ‘turn off’ from the phone and maybe do some mindfulness (maintaining an awareness of our thoughts) and yoga instead, or something else that will connect you to your mind.

Accept your emotions, and let them be a healthy part of you! Learn to be confident and comfortable with them, it is completely ‘human’ to have emotions. Try to objectively value yourself and your emotions and actions. This will also help you in understanding other people’s feelings.

Try to pay attention to others, it is important if you want to work well with them. Try and become aware of how you communicate; verbally and non verbally. Be an active listener, try to emphasize with others, take critique well and try to respond to conflict not reacting to it.

I hope this helped a bit, and that yo now better understand emotional intelligence and how to become better at it!

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